There is a defining moment in every persons life. Within that moment, everything that that person is, shines its brightest.
– Source unknown
Defining moments can be public, in sport we think of breakthrough and/or record breaking performances as defining moments for athletes, coaches and teams; Aaron Rodgers winning the Super Bowl, Roy Williams winning his first NCAA title, the Chicago Bulls six championships. However, the reality is public defining moments are created through the defining moments we face quietly and internally. They are created by the choices we make in the daily defining moments we face such as:
- Choices between the popular and un-popular, between right and wrong, saying something or not saying something, going along or standing alone
The outcomes by which we become defined are created by the internal choices we make daily; determining whether we ever reach the public defining moment we destire.
As coaches it is imperative we establish the guiding values and principles for our team. Yet, ultimately our team and its members will become defined by the choices made that either adhere or stray from those values and principles.
Coaches can and should use the motivation of obtaining the public defining moment to help players learn how to make the right choices in the daily defining moments.The biggest impact to the lives and peformances of players and teams is to help them establish the values by which they hope to be defined and learn how to increase the number of right choices they make daily. The next step would be to help them learn how to recover from the times when we make poor choices and that will require another blog entry .