The greatest obstacle to success is taking action daily, the greatest obstacle to taking action daily is finding motivation, the greatest obstacle to finding motivation is belief, and the greatest obstacle to belief is faith. Thus faith is the foundation for all worthwhile accomplishment.
A great many players desire to achieve success in their sport. They may even strongly desire and dream of the outcomes they can receive when successful by societal standards; wins, championships, recognition, scholarships, professional opportunities, etc. Yet why do so few start and last on the path of full committment towards those standards of success ? Why doesn’t the possiblity of those rewards drive every player through adversity? Why do so many stop at obstacles?
I believe the answer lies in a lack of trust, or faith, by the player that is borne out of the uncertainty of not seeing the alignment between what is on their heart and the path they are being asked to travel. In order to stick through a difficult journey, a path paved with adversity, a person must have deep faith that this is the path for them. They must possess a deep faith that the path and the reward line up with their personal goals, values, and purposes. When faced with times of adversity what is at the core of our motivation will win out. If a player doesn’t believe in the path the prospect of an extrinsic reward will not carry them past the obstacles. Only the determination found in pursuing intrinsic goals can drive someone repeatedly past obstacles.
The only other explanation would be players simply do not desire the extrinsic reward being offered. I hear so many pundits and expertts like Dick Vitale say on television something like ‘if the kid would just go to class and work hard they could be millionaires, I don’t get what he is thinking’. Two things in response to that. 1) Believe it or not money and fame may not be the greatest source of motivation for everybody, if it was we would all be entreprenuers or entertainers. 2) Has anybody taken the time to find out what truly excites that player? Has anyone helped them identify their passion(s) and how the path of working hard on the basketball court and showing up to classes might align and be of benefit with their passion(s)?
The world’s extrinsic rewards will never be able to compete with the power found when a path aligns with somebodys passison and purpose. Likewise a coach will never be able to fully motivate and teach a team until the players and team have faith in the alignment between their passions and goals and the coaches vision and plan for them.
There is a defining moment in every persons life. Within that moment, everything that that person is, shines its brightest.
– Source unknown
Defining moments can be public, in sport we think of breakthrough and/or record breaking performances as defining moments for athletes, coaches and teams; Aaron Rodgers winning the Super Bowl, Roy Williams winning his first NCAA title, the Chicago Bulls six championships. However, the reality is public defining moments are created through the defining moments we face quietly and internally. They are created by the choices we make in the daily defining moments we face such as:
- Choices between the popular and un-popular, between right and wrong, saying something or not saying something, going along or standing alone
The outcomes by which we become defined are created by the internal choices we make daily; determining whether we ever reach the public defining moment we destire.
As coaches it is imperative we establish the guiding values and principles for our team. Yet, ultimately our team and its members will become defined by the choices made that either adhere or stray from those values and principles.
Coaches can and should use the motivation of obtaining the public defining moment to help players learn how to make the right choices in the daily defining moments.The biggest impact to the lives and peformances of players and teams is to help them establish the values by which they hope to be defined and learn how to increase the number of right choices they make daily. The next step would be to help them learn how to recover from the times when we make poor choices and that will require another blog entry .
Coaches talk a great deal of the importance of buy-in by players. But how is the accomplished? What is needed to lead so that others will follow? People and players don’t follow titles very far, so merely being a coach doesn’t ensure players will adhere to your demands.
I believe a big part of this is clearly communicating your goals and expectations for the team and its members. However, an equally big component is providing the players with the opportunity to indivdually share their goals and expectations with you. This only occurs if you start a dialogue as a coach. If you are willing to actually listen and not lecture during this time you will have a much better understanding of the individual player and a great foundation to operate from in helping them adjust into their role on the team.
There are many benefits to this dialogue such as:,
- Players feel heard and validated
- Players have ‘aha’ learning moments when they are talking through these questions as to their role on the team
- You can start to manage out of synch expectations between yourself and a player much earlier and at a time before anger and resentment have started to build up.
- You can discover better ways to communicate with the player as you will have a greater understanding of their motivations and what makes them tick if you listen well.
Below are examples of questions you can use at the start of seasons to initiate dialogue with players to develop the trust and relationship that can thrive during the adversity of a season:
- What are your expectations for being on this team? Playing time? Role on team? Shot attempts? Type of shot attempts?
Would you be able to stay positive in words, actions, and effort if these expectations did not get met?
- What would you say are your strengths as a player? Are there any others on the team stronger than you in these areas?
- What are areas of your game that you feel you struggle in?
- What are your goals for playing on this team? Personally? For the Team?
- How would you describe good leadership?
- What do you think makes a good teammate?
The benefits of sincere dialogue intiated and continued throughout a season by questions and listening will pay benefits for the life of a player coach relationship and definately provide a coach and their team their best opportunity to respond to adversity in a positive manner.